Remembering My Great Grandma This Christmas

On the thirteenth day of Blogmas, I give you the perfect way I’m going to remember my Great Grandma who sadly left us for that party up in the sky!



Unfortunately, this year has not been kind to the Darby’s.

We sadly lost my Great Grandma Ivison who was the life and soul of any party.

91 years young.

Heartbroken is still an understatement.

Never without a gin and tonic in her hand or her pennies for playing New Market at Christmas.

Just before my 21st, she left us to join my Great Grandad once again…I guess 18 years is long enough!


Just after I turned 18, we lost my Great Aunty Frances.

It was my first funeral so I didn’t know what to expect but we gave her a bloody good send off, one she deserved!

For Grandma Ivison’s funeral, it was different as I’d spent more time with her and she was in my life for a long time.

What a woman she was.


She had the best stories to tell. She was going to be a dancer on the West End, you know? Her mother wouldn’t let her go to London so unfortunately, she had to give up that dream.

Another time, she told me she had gone to her neighbour’s house with Great Grandad. Grandma had so many G&T’s, her friend ran out of gin and started using vodka instead! Grandma told me she was swinging from the bathroom light when she got home, shouting for my Grandad, ha!

At my 21st birthday party, there was plenty of photos of Grandma and me from when I was younger all the way up to a few years ago.

I didn’t know I was getting a present from her, it was a total shock.


I got a very special Pandora necklace named “Celebration Stars”, which I feel is very fitting for Grandma – I also bought a matching charm for my bracelet.

I wear them every day.

I was very lucky when she passed to have such a good unit of friends to help me through grief.

Thank you to everyone who was there for me and my family, we can’t thank you enough.

I was really daft and went to work the day after she passed.

I was AWFUL. I thought I was fine but one of my work colleagues asked if I was alright and I just broke down! I know Grandma would have told me off (with love, of course) for going to work…she only wanted the best for all the family!

Needless to say, my manager sent me home that day!


Grandma’s funeral was a brilliant celebration for a wonderful woman.

So many people showed up! It was incredible!

I’m really upset Josh or the boys never got to meet her but I always I talk about her, I find it’s the best way to remember her!

This Christmas, as I’ve mentioned before Josh is coming to my grandparents’ house on Christmas Day so I’m going to teach him how to play New Market like the pro Grandma Ivison was.

I might even give gin and tonic another go…just for you Grandma.

We miss you, thanks for giving us the best lives possible.



What happened to the man who stole the advent calendar?

He got 25 days!

See you tomorrow my stockings!





  1. December 13, 2018 / 11:31 am

    I can completely relate to losing family members. I lost my Great Aunt (like my Grandma) just after NY 5 years ago and then my Grandma about 3 and a half years ago. I still miss them both every single day and especially at this time of year because I know my Uncle and Grandad struggle so much with them gone. This was such a beautiful post and your Grandma would be so so proud of you. Hope you’re ok angel, I’m always here if you want a chat ❀️

    • Niamh Darby
      December 13, 2018 / 11:35 am

      Thank you! Xxx

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